After the birth of our first child, I told my parents I could no longer send them money. They said they understood—until my mom showed up asking my wife for money for a trip with her friends. My wife was in tears.

To keep the peace, I sent a small amount for cancellation fees. My mom didn’t thank me. Instead, she posted online about being “forgotten” by her children. Then my dad called, saying I’d “broken her heart.”I love my parents—but my wife and child come first. Does that make me selfish?