I, (Mary, 68F) have always done what I could for my son and his family, telling myself it was for my grandson. When I spent a few days in the hospital, I thought they would come. Each time footsteps passed in the hallway, I hoped it was them. But the door never opened. Lying there alone, I realized the emptiness hurt more than the illness itself.
Not long after, my son sent a message that cut deeper than anything I was already feeling. He asked when I would be discharged because they needed money for my grandson and had planned to stop by. In that moment, I understood. To them, I was not a parent to be cared for, but a source to draw from.I put the phone down and stared at the ceiling, letting the weight of it sink in. Love should never feel this one-sided, yet mine clearly did. The hardest part was not the illness, but facing the truth that the people I would give everything for could not give back the smallest gesture of care.A week later, my son called again, this time asking if I could cover a medical bill for their child. For the first time, I told him no. And just like that, I became the selfish one, the parent who had “changed,” the one who had supposedly grown cold.But deep down I know the truth. When I think back to those days in the hospital, waiting for someone who never came, what lingers isn’t anger. It’s the quiet sadness of realizing how alone I really was.