My mom’s relationship with her parents was always tense, but I didn’t understand how deep it went until my grandfather passed away—and left everything to me.
Growing up, Grandpa Kazuo seemed cold and distant. He never really spoke to me, so I assumed he just didn’t like kids. Years later, at 26, I was shocked to learn he’d left me nearly $800,000, his Redwood City home, and a collection of valuable Japanese art.
At the funeral, my mom barely looked at his casket. Afterward, I was handed a letter from him. In it, he revealed he had quietly supported and followed my life from afar—attending my school plays, my graduation, even supporting my nonprofit anonymously. He urged me to read a red folder in his desk before making decisions about the house.
When I visited the house, I found that folder. Inside were letters and journal entries revealing my mom’s past. At 19, she fell in love with Andrei, a Romanian student. When she became pregnant, Grandpa was furious when Andrei refused to marry her. Their relationship fell apart, and after a heartbreaking miscarriage, Andrei returned to Romania. My mom later met my dad, married quickly, and cut ties with Grandpa forever.
In that folder, I also found proof of Grandpa’s quiet love for me—photos, play programs, and clippings about my work. When I told my mom, she was silent at first, then admitted, “I hated him for a long time… but maybe I hated myself more.”
Instead of selling the estate, I used it to create The Sato Second Start Fund, helping single parents rebuild their lives.
Months later, I got an email from a woman named Ilinca in Romania. She believed we might be related. Attached was a photo of her father—Andrei—with the same hazel eyes I see in the mirror.