A woman shared on Reddit that after four years together and one year of marriage, her husband shocked her by suddenly asking to open their relationship.
She immediately refused, explaining she wanted a lifelong, monogamous marriage. However, he pushed her to “think about it” and even read up on polyamory, which deeply hurt her trust. Since then, she’s been sleeping in the guest room, feeling disgusted and unable to look at him the same way.
When she asked to see his messages with his polyamorous friends, he became secretive and protective of his phone, making her suspect he’s hiding something. Now, she’s leaning toward divorce while things are still simple, even though she still loves him, because she feels she can never unhear his request or trust him again.