i\u2019m 30, the oldest of four, and I finally thought I was done raising siblings. I\u2019ve helped with my younger siblings for years, so I thought I could finally focus on my own life. Then last night at the dinner table, my mom dropped a bombshell. She\u2019s pregnant after a fling. The father\u2019s long gone, but she\u2019s keeping the baby.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After telling me, she pulled out a stack of papers and started walking me through plans for the baby, things she said I \u201cneeded\u201d to organize and handle. Budgets, schedules, lists of what she expected me to do. She acted like it was normal for me to take charge before the baby was even born.
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I froze at the table. I felt blindsided, overwhelmed, and honestly angry. She kept talking as if I had no choice and that I would naturally step up because that\u2019s what I always do. It felt manipulative, like she was guilt-tripping me into doing most of the work before even asking if I wanted to be involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I walked out because I couldn\u2019t process it. I want to support her, but this feels like she\u2019s trying to dump responsibility on me. I feel stuck between wanting to help my mom and wanting to protect my own life and sanity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Am I wrong for being upset that my mom seems to expect me to handle this new baby before it\u2019s even here?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sincerely,<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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