My husband and I are saving for a house. Suddenly, my MIL offered us $35,000 for the down payment, on one condition: she moves in with us. That might sound generous, but here\u2019s the problem: she\u2019s controlling. She criticizes my cooking, constantly \u201creorganizes\u201d my kitchen, and once told me I should \u201cdress more modestly\u201d in my own home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I can barely handle her weekend visits, let alone living with her full-time. To thank her, my husband invited her over for dinner. I was all smiles, I even cooked his mom\u2019s favorite dish. At the table, she took a bite then bolted to the toilet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What she didn\u2019t know was that I had secretly added a little coriander, an ingredient she\u2019s mildly allergic to. When she returned, she was furious. She accused me of doing it intentionally, reminding me that I knew about her allergy. My husband, too, was angry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I looked at both of them and said calmly, \u201cYou\u2019re offering us the money with conditions. Fine. But I have conditions too.
This will be our home, my husband\u2019s and mine! That means our house, our rules. And since I\u2019ll be the one cooking, I\u2019ll use whatever ingredients I choose.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My MIL was livid. She left before dessert, and my husband later accused me of disrespecting her, insisting she only wanted to help us buy a house. I told him that if she wants to move in, she must respect my boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now, I\u2019m left wondering: should I accept her offer without setting any rules? Or did I go too far in standing my ground?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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