I\u2019m getting married in a month. Yesterday, my fianc\u00e9\u2019s cousin messaged me, confused about what to wear to the wedding. The invitations we sent out months ago clearly stated the dress code was \u201cformal,\u201d so I didn\u2019t understand her question\u2014until she sent me a picture of a completely different invitation. That version listed the dress code as \u201cblack tie\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It turns out my future MIL had sent her side of the family separate invitations. When I confronted her, I froze as she said that the term \u201cformal\u201d would make her relatives feel underdressed, so she changed it to \u201cblack tie\u201d to \u201cprotect the family\u2019s image.\u201d She didn\u2019t think it would matter much.
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I was furious. Not only was this incredibly disrespectful, but it\u2019s also going to create chaos on the day of the wedding. Guests will show up dressed for a completely different level of formality. I tried to explain, as calmly as possible, that what she did was unacceptable, but she accused me of overreacting and of not being inclusive of her family\u2019s preferences. When I told my fianc\u00e9 what happened, he said he had no clue, and he was just as shocked as I was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now I\u2019m stuck. Should I send out a clarification to her entire side of the family to prevent confusion? Or should I let it play out and deal with the inevitable awkwardness on the day? My fianc\u00e9 fully supports me and wants to confront her about it, but I\u2019m worried that another confrontation will only escalate the drama. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I\u2019m exhausted and stressed, and this is the last problem I thought I\u2019d have to deal with right now.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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