I (52M) have been married to my wife for 6 years. She has a daughter, Ivy (14F), from her first marriage. I do most of the cooking in our house. I actually enjoy it, but it\u2019s become my responsibility by default.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Recently, Ivy got really into \u2018clean eating.\u2019 She\u2019s been watching a lot of videos and following accounts that talk about cutting out fried foods, sugar, certain carbs, etc. She sat us down and listed all the things she refuses to eat now. I tried to be supportive, but honestly, the list was long and kind of restrictive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Last week, I made fried chicken for dinner. It\u2019s something my wife and I both love, and I figured Ivy could just eat the sides if she didn\u2019t want the chicken. But Ivy got upset and said I wasn\u2019t respecting her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I told her, \u2018Look, if you\u2019re going to cut out half the foods I cook, then maybe you should start making your own meals or go live anywhere else!\u2019 She got angry and stormed off. My wife later told me I shouldn\u2019t have said that because Ivy\u2019s sensitive, and it made her feel excluded.\u201d
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\u201cThat night, I heard a loud crash in Ivy\u2019s room. I ran in and found her in the middle of a full meltdown. She was crying, saying that it was my fault because I ignored her food rules. She said now she\u2019d have to cook for herself all the time since I wouldn\u2019t \u2018care\u2019 about what she eats, and that it wasn\u2019t fair because I\u2019m the main cook in the house, not her mom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I didn\u2019t know what to say. She was shaking and sobbing, and I felt like I had pushed her into this. At the same time, I can\u2019t cook three different meals every night. I don\u2019t think it\u2019s reasonable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My wife thinks I should have been more flexible and tried harder to accommodate Ivy, especially since she\u2019s a teenager dealing with body image stuff. But I feel like I\u2019m being set up to fail here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m really torn. I don\u2019t want to dismiss Ivy\u2019s feelings, but I also don\u2019t want to be held responsible for her food choices and body image struggles. I\u2019m not her enemy, I just can\u2019t bend to every new rule she makes up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So\u2026 am I a villain for telling her to cook her own food?\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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