My wife and I have been married for three months. She has two sons from a previous relationship, and I get along with them well. I knew from the start she was a single mom, and I was fine with that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But last week, she told me she wants to quit her job and stay home full-time with her kids. We don\u2019t plan for more kids because I had a vasectomy years ago. She says she always dreamed of being a stay-at-home mom and that she missed too much of her boys\u2019 early years because she was working long hours as a nurse. She felt guilty, and now that we were joining lives, she saw a new chance to give her sons the attention they deserved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I told her I\u2019m not comfortable with it. I work full-time, but covering rent, bills, groceries, school expenses, and everything else on one income is a lot. I didn\u2019t sign up to be the sole provider for four people. The kids are in school most of the day, and I didn\u2019t see how it made sense. She seemed to take it okay and said she understood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Then yesterday. Her mom called me, sobbing, and said, \u201cYou are failing as a husband.\u201d Then she continued to tell me that I should never have married a single mom if I wasn\u2019t ready to take full responsibility for her and her children. I was stunned. I told her this was between me and my wife and ended the call.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I talked to my wife, she said she had vented to her mom and thought it would help me hear another perspective. I told her I would never let my mom call her and insult her choices. She said I was taking it too personally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
She never said she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom before our marriage. Now I feel like I\u2019m being guilt-tripped for not wanting to become something I never agreed to be. What can I do to solve this and figure out what\u2019s best for both of us?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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