{"id":17970,"date":"2025-11-13T13:02:30","date_gmt":"2025-11-13T13:02:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/?p=17970"},"modified":"2025-11-13T13:02:31","modified_gmt":"2025-11-13T13:02:31","slug":"i-refused-to-help-my-pregnant-dil-im-retired-not-a-free-babysitter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/?p=17970","title":{"rendered":"I Refused to Help My Pregnant DIL\u2014I\u2019m Retired, Not a Free Babysitter"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When my<strong>\u00a0DIL got pregnant<\/strong>, they asked me\u00a0to\u00a0<strong>babysit her son <\/strong>from her first marriage, and I\u00a0agreed. However, when\u00a0I planned a\u00a0trip, she snapped, \u201cOnly a\u00a0selfish woman would choose her pleasure over a\u00a0future mommy\u2019s needs\u201d. I\u00a0smiled, but <strong>she lost it\u00a0when\u00a0I asked for money <\/strong>to\u00a0become a\u00a0babysitter for her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Grand parents should be paid in both reciprocated services and money to prevent abuse. I pay for my babysitter (grandparent) to accompany us on family trips, drive grands to appointments, and cook for them when the services are provided locally. I feel that lower levels of detectable passion\/pleasure form through obligation&#8230; Help the grands enjoy by taking care of your responsibilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now she\u2019s not talking to&nbsp;me, and my&nbsp;son is&nbsp;awkwardly trying to&nbsp;\u201cstay out of&nbsp;it\u201d. Apparently, I\u2019m the villain for daring to&nbsp;have a&nbsp;life and <strong>not volunteering as&nbsp;free childcare<\/strong> on&nbsp;demand. I&nbsp;love my&nbsp;grandson, but I\u2019m not a&nbsp;full-time nanny, and&nbsp;I don\u2019t think it\u2019s wrong to&nbsp;expect some <a href=\"https:\/\/brightside.me\/tags\/respect\/\">respect<\/a>, or&nbsp;at&nbsp;least a&nbsp;conversation that doesn\u2019t involve guilt trips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, I\u2019m curious,<strong> what would you do\u00a0in\u00a0my\u00a0shoes<\/strong>? Am\u00a0I\u00a0being unreasonable for wanting boundaries, or\u00a0is\u00a0it\u00a0time to\u00a0stop helping altogether until they treat me\u00a0like a\u00a0person and not an\u00a0unpaid employee?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Thanks Abigail for sharing your story!<\/strong> That\u2019s a&nbsp;tough spot to&nbsp;be&nbsp;in. <strong>Family drama<\/strong> hits different, especially when you were just trying to&nbsp;help and suddenly you\u2019re painted as&nbsp;the bad guy. From what you\u2019ve said, it&nbsp;sounds like your DIL\u2019s gotten a&nbsp;little too comfortable treating your kindness like an&nbsp;obligation.<br><br>Here are a&nbsp;few thoughts that might help before you lose your mind (or&nbsp;your relationship with your son).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When my\u00a0DIL got pregnant, they asked me\u00a0to\u00a0babysit her son from her first marriage, and I\u00a0agreed. However, when\u00a0I planned a\u00a0trip, she snapped, \u201cOnly a\u00a0selfish woman would choose her&#8230; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":17971,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17970","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"views":233,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17970","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=17970"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17970\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17972,"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17970\/revisions\/17972"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/17971"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=17970"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=17970"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsinbr.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=17970"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}