My brother and I have always had very different approaches to life. I\u2019m the one who saves, plans, and thinks ahead. He\u2019s more impulsive, always believing things will \u201cwork out somehow.\u201d In the past, when things didn\u2019t work out, I\u2019d help. At first, I did it willingly. He was my brother, and I adore his kids. But slowly, it stopped feeling like kindness and started feeling like an expectation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Earlier this year, he impulsively quit his job. Then, he called and asked me to fund his kids\u2019 expenses \u201cfor a while.\u201d He said it like it was the most natural thing in the world. His exact justification was: \u201cYou don\u2019t have kids. You have more room to help.\u201d That hit me harder than I expected. Not because I didn\u2019t love the kids but because my life choices were being treated like a financial safety net for his choices. I finally said what I\u2019d never said out loud before: \u201cI can\u2019t keep stepping in every time things fall apart. I need to focus on my own future too.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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