I (58M) am about a year away from retiring. My wife (46F) has two teenagers from a previous marriage, 14M and 16F. Great kids, but they\u2019re rarely home before 8 p.m. One has soccer, the other theater, and they spend half the week at their dad\u2019s place. Most nights it\u2019s just me and her. For context, I\u2019ve been the one paying all the bills since we got married.
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I don\u2019t mind that, I love her, I love the kids, but retirement is creeping up, and I\u2019ve been stressing like crazy about money. Things are already tighter than I\u2019d like. So the other night, I gently suggested that maybe she could pick up a part-time job. Nothing insane, just something to help out a little bit since she does have a lot of free time during the day. She actually said she\u2019d \u201cthink about it,\u201d which I thought was a good sign.
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Fast forward literally, the very next day, my head boiled when I saw she walked in with a designer handbag, insisting it was \u201ca timeless purchase.\u201d Like, full-on bougie label, and we are not talking cheap. I asked her what that was about, and she just smiled and said it was a \u201ctimeless purchase.\u201d I swear, I could feel my blood pressure spike.
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If she cooks, cleans, does laundry and grocery shops then she works. The timing for the handbag purchase was bad. Does she know how tight things are with money? Does she frequently make expensive purchases? Hubby should tell his wife exactly how he feels. The household budget should include money for her personal purchases. With a part time job, she could contribute toward the bills. Also, she should save part of her income to buy a luxury item. .
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Here I am, I\u2019m crunching numbers for retirement, and she buys a designer bag, calling it a \u201ctimeless investment.\u201d I can\u2019t get past how careless it looks. And I\u2019m questioning whether I came on too strong, or if she\u2019s the one being completely unreasonable here. What do you guys think, am I being controlling, or is she being out of touch with reality here?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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