People get divorced for all kinds of different reasons. More often than not, it\u2019s the little things that add up and lead to the decline of the relationship. According to experts, most couples that get divorced have a few silent relationship killers in common.According to Dr. John Gottman, couples are pretty much doomed to fail if they have any of the following four traits: stonewalling, sarcasm, contempt, and criticism. He called these \u201cThe Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.\u201d Out of the four, Gottman identified contempt as the number one predictor of divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
While licensed professional counselor E.J. Smith tells Bustle that the other three \u201chorsemen\u201d can also be problematic, contempt is by far the most damaging. \u201cWhen people start to look at their spouse with contempt or resentment, it colors the lens through which we see, observe, and interpret our spouse,\u201d Smith says. \u201cIts presence undermines the desire to continue to work at our relationships. Even gestures and behaviors that could be seen as positive can be twisted in such a way that they\u2019re seen as negative.\u201dmajor things like cheating, these types of relationship ruiners aren\u2019t easy to spot. It\u2019s important to be aware of them before it\u2019s too late to do anything about it. So here are some silent relationship killers that almost always leads to divorce, according to experts.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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