Weddings are a time for joy and celebration but for one father from New York, they’ve also become a source of unexpected family drama.The dad shared his story on Reddit’s AITA forum, explaining that he had once promised to pay for his daughter’s wedding, a commitment many parents make out of love. But he was blindsided when his daughter revealed her dream wedding: a luxurious destination affair in New Zealand, with 100 to 200 guests and a staggering $200,000 price tag.

While his wife believes they should fund it since they can afford it, the dad hesitates. He called it “burning money” and worried that such an extravagant event might alienate family members rather than bring them together. His refusal caused a rift now his daughter and wife aren’t speaking to him.He wrote, “Should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter’s dream wedding a reality?”

Reddit users were quick to support him. Many agreed that a $200K wedding was excessive, especially if the daughter couldn’t pay for it herself. One commenter noted, “If she can’t afford a destination wedding, she shouldn’t be having one,” and criticized the daughter’s entitled reaction.Others suggested a middle ground: give her a set budget and let her plan within those limits. “Tell her anything beyond your contribution is her and her fiancé’s responsibility,” one person advised.

As of now, the dad hasn’t shared an update only that his daughter is still calling him a jerk and refusing to speak to him.The situation has sparked a broader conversation about how far parents should go to fulfill their children’s wedding dreams and where to draw the line between generosity and reason.