A husband went to Reddit to vent about ongoing conflict with his stay-at-home wife after the birth of their baby. He works 14–18 hours a day, six days a week, and says that the moment he walks through the door, his wife immediately hands him the baby so she can breast pump and watch Korean dramas for about an hour. While he says he’s willing to help, he wants time to decompress after long shifts.

He claims he tried to make things easier by buying her a portable pump that fits in her bra so she could move around while pumping. However, his wife insists that pumping is painful and emotionally draining, and that watching something relaxing helps her mentally cope and produce enough milk. She says doing chores while pumping affects her output.

Frustrated, he told her he believed she was using pumping as an excuse to take a break and avoid housework. His wife became upset, accusing him of calling her a liar and dismissing her pain and effort as a mother. He, meanwhile, feels it’s unfair that he works long hours but still gets limited rest when he’s home.

Now he’s questioning whether he crossed the line by confronting her—or whether she’s avoiding responsibilities under the guise of pumping recovery. The post has sparked heavy debate about postpartum realities, exhaustion, emotional labor, and what true fairness looks like in a new parent household.