Sometimes you realize people only reach out when it’s convenient for them, not because they value you. They had no problem keeping you at a distance for six months — until a crisis happened, and suddenly you’re “family” again. That shift shows the relationship is transactional, based on what they need rather than genuine respect or connection.

If you choose to help, do it for your grandson — not for the adults who created the tension. He didn’t set these rules, and he shouldn’t pay the price for the strained relationship. You can show up for him while still protecting your boundaries with his parents.

Pay close attention to their reaction if you do help. Are they grateful, acknowledging what you’re doing? Or do they act like you owed them this all along? The difference between appreciation and entitlement will tell you whether they truly want to repair things — or if they just need free childcare.

And remember, your actions teach your grandson about relationships. If you let others disrespect you without boundaries, he’ll learn that’s acceptable. Showing that you care and have self-respect may be one of the most valuable lessons he sees — that love doesn’t mean accepting poor treatment.