My parents dropped $60,000 on my sister’s wedding three years ago. When I got engaged last year, I assumed they’d contribute similarly. Instead, they handed me a check for $2,000. When I asked about the huge difference, my mom said flatly, “You’re older. You can handle it yourself.”

I didn’t argue. I smiled, thanked them for the $2,000, and started planning a smaller wedding with my fiancé. Then my sister called two months before the wedding. “This cheap wedding is going to embarrass the whole family.” I took a breath and just said, “Noted,” then hung up.

But at the wedding, they all went pale when they walked in. My fiancé and I had put together something beautiful on our budget—a small outdoor ceremony at a friend’s gorgeous property, handmade decorations, a potluck-style reception where close friends contributed dishes, and a playlist instead of a DJ. It was personal, warm, and full of love.

What really got them was the speech I gave, thanking everyone who’d contributed their time, skills, and care to make our day special—I listed names and what they’d done. I never mentioned my parents’ contribution at all.

After the ceremony, my mom pulled me aside, looking upset. “You made us look like we didn’t help you at all.” I said calmly, “You gave what you thought was appropriate. I’m just grateful for the people who gave more.” My sister hasn’t spoken to me since, and relatives are taking sides.

I’m proud of my wedding and I don’t regret how I handled it, but I didn’t expect this much fallout. Did I go too far by not mentioning them? How do I deal with my family acting like I’m the one who created this problem?