After giving birth, I planned to return to work since I earn more and our family can’t survive on one income. I asked my 64-year-old mom—who’s been a homemaker for decades to help with childcare. Instead, she said she’d charge $20 an hour, plus late fees, and asked for a full set of baby items for her house. She said she was too old to babysit full-time and that if I chose to have a child, I should stay home to raise it just like she did.

Her refusal shocked me. I was hoping for help, not resistance. We’re in a cramped one-bedroom apartment and saving for a bigger space. Daycare costs more than we can afford, and no one else in the family is available. Still, my mom stood firm, saying she already raised her kids and it’s now our responsibility.

I was torn. Asking her for free help felt reasonable at first she stays home all day and doesn’t work but she saw it as a burden, not a favor. Choosing daycare might be cheaper long-term, even though it’s not ideal. The reality of parenting without support hit hard, and the financial pressure only adds to the stress.

When I shared my story online, people were divided. Some agreed with my mom, saying she has the right to say no. Others sympathized with me, noting how hard modern parenting is without family support. One thing became clear: being a parent today is tougher than ever, especially when the village you counted on isn’t willing to help.