When I joined this company, I thought going “above and beyond” meant respect. My boss learned that fast. He didn’t ask—he assumed. I’d get messages at 10 PM: “This needs to be ready by morning.” Weekends? “Jump on a quick call.” I skipped birthdays, canceled plans because I was scared to say no.
The real breaking point? My dad ended up in the ER. I left work early to meet him. On the way to the hospital, my boss texted:“We all have personal issues. Don’t disappear on the team.”I didn’t respond. I spent the night in a waiting room instead of finishing his report.
The next morning, HR summoned me. He had reported me for “insubordination.” I genuinely thought I was getting fired.But HR let me speak. I showed them the late-night emails, missed weekends, the ER text. I wasn’t the first complaint—just the first to bring proof. HR went silent. Then they asked, “Has he ever approved overtime for this?”
They didn’t fire him. They put him on monitoring. Every after-hours request now needs justification, approval, and overtime pay.He avoids me now. No more midnight orders.I didn’t explode. I didn’t quit.I just let him finally face the job he created.