Your feelings are completely valid — anyone in your situation would feel hurt, disrespected, and betrayed. Having your boundaries ignored, especially around such a meaningful day, naturally brings up anger and frustration. Take time to process those emotions without guilt, whether by talking to someone you trust or simply reflecting privately.

Now that the wedding is behind you, focus on setting firmer boundaries for future interactions with your ex. Make it clear that decisions about your events and your space are yours to make, and he doesn’t get to insert people or dynamics without consent. Clear communication and neutral but firm language can help prevent repeat situations.

Still, this chapter isn’t defined by his actions — your wedding was about love, joy, and a new beginning with your partner. Hold on to the beautiful memories: the vows, the laughter, the support from those who truly matter. Don’t let a moment of selfish behavior overshadow a day built on love.

Finally, keep co-parenting in mind as you move forward. Address the situation calmly, emphasizing respect and healthy boundaries for the sake of your children. Model grace while holding firm — showing that you can protect your peace and teach your kids about self-respect without turning anyone into the “villain.”