A woman recently discovered that her husband has been secretly trying to get her pregnant, despite their mutual agreement not to have children. This shocking betrayal happened after he suddenly changed his mind following a family event, but instead of talking to her, he began covertly sabotaging their birth control. Hurt and confused, she reached out for advice, unsure how to handle the breach of trust.

Family planning is one of the most sensitive decisions couples make, and both partners must be fully aligned. Her husband’s actions not only ignored her wishes but violated her autonomy and safety. Instead of having an open, honest conversation, he attempted to force a life-changing decision onto her without her consent.

To move forward, trust must be rebuilt — if it can be rebuilt at all. She needs to confront him calmly but firmly, express how deeply his behavior has damaged their relationship, and make clear that consent and communication are nonnegotiable. Professional support, such as couples therapy, may help uncover why he acted this way and whether the relationship can be repaired.

Above all, her emotional well-being and bodily autonomy come first. She must decide whether she feels safe continuing the relationship and ensure her birth control remains fully under her control. No matter what her husband wants, her choices, boundaries, and safety must be respected.