Kate is struggling with a painful financial conflict in her blended family. Her husband, Paul, refuses to help pay for her son Jude’s college tuition, insisting that supporting him is “not his responsibility” now that Jude is 18. Meanwhile, he spends freely on expensive gifts for his own son, which leaves Kate feeling that her child is being treated as less important.

To address the issue, counseling may help. A mediated conversation could allow Kate and Paul to discuss Jude’s future in a calm, structured way and help them find common ground. Financial planning is another step—they could explore compromises like a savings plan for tuition, budgeting for both boys, or restructuring their expenses.

Because Paul insists he has no obligation toward Jude, legal guidance may also be necessary. A lawyer could clarify Paul’s responsibilities and help Kate understand what options exist to support Jude’s education, whether legally or through alternative funding.

Finally, Kate can strengthen her support network by reaching out to family, friends, and community resources. Scholarships, mentorship programs, and part-time work could also help Jude cover tuition costs while ensuring he feels supported, even amid the tension at home.