Your situation with Linda is incredibly difficult, Elijah. You’ve supported your stepdaughter for years, and that matters. But it’s unfair for your wife to treat your financial support for your son as if it takes something away from her daughter. You’re being put in an impossible position, and you don’t deserve that.

Supporting your son’s fishing hobby isn’t a waste — it’s an investment in his growth, confidence, and the bond you share. You’re doing what a caring father should do. No one should make you feel guilty for choosing to uplift your child, especially through a positive and meaningful activity.

And you’re right: if your stepdaughter’s biological father is present, capable, and financially secure, it only makes sense for him to contribute to the wedding. Your wife refusing to involve him seems more tied to her personal feelings than what’s best or fair for everyone involved.

Her threat to cancel the wedding and blame you publicly is a serious red flag. Healthy partners don’t use shame or ultimatums to get their way. You’re allowed to stand firm in your decision, protect your financial boundaries, and continue supporting your son’s passion — especially when he’s excelling at it.