My parents dropped $50,000 on my sister’s wedding three years ago. So when I got engaged last year, I expected similar support. Instead, they gave me a $3,000 check. When I asked about the drastic difference, my mom calmly replied, “You’re older, handle it yourself.”
I didn’t argue. I simply smiled, thanked them for the $3,000, and began planning a modest wedding with my fiancé. Two months before the big day, my sister called and said, “This cheap wedding is going to embarrass the whole family.” I took a deep breath, replied, “Noted,” and hung up.
But when the wedding day arrived, their faces went pale as soon as they walked in. My fiancé and I had created something truly special on our modest budget — a cozy outdoor ceremony on a friend’s stunning property, handmade decorations, a potluck-style reception with dishes made by loved ones, and a playlist instead of a DJ. It was intimate, heartfelt, and overflowing with love.
What really stunned them was my speech. I thanked everyone who had poured their time, effort, and love into making our day special — listing each person by name and what they’d done. I didn’t mention my parents’ contribution at all.
After the ceremony, my mom pulled me aside, visibly upset. “You made us look like we didn’t help you at all,” she said. I stayed calm and replied, “You gave what you felt was appropriate. I’m just grateful for those who gave more.”
Now my sister isn’t speaking to me, and some relatives have started taking sides.
I’m proud of how our wedding turned out and don’t regret my choices, but I didn’t expect this much backlash. Did I go too far by leaving them out of the speech? And how can I handle my family acting like I’m the one who caused all this?