My husband always used to brag about being the provider. I didn’t mind at first — it was true, he worked hard, and I appreciated that.
But when he lost his job a couple of years ago, everything changed. I picked up more hours at work, got promoted, and now I make about three times what he used to earn. At first, he said he was proud of me.
But lately, he’s been acting weird. He keeps asking how I spend my money — things like why I bought new shoes or went out with my coworkers. It’s like he can’t handle the fact that I’m the one paying the bills now.
The other night, we got into another argument about it, and I finally snapped. I told him, “If I pay the bills, I make the rules.” He didn’t say anything. Just looked at me for a few seconds and walked away.
The next day, I came home from work, and half his stuff was gone. He left a note that said, “Enjoy your rules.”
I don’t even know how to feel. Part of me is angry, but another part just feels… empty. Did I go too far? Or was I just standing up for myself?