For seven years, I supported my friend through some of her hardest times. When we met, she struggled financially, and I helped however I could — even lending her my car when hers broke down, never asking for gas money or anything in return. Back then, I was stable and happy to help. But life changed, and I eventually ended up living paycheck to paycheck while her situation improved dramatically after marrying a millionaire.

I’ve borrowed small amounts from her before, always repaying her. Recently, though, she began refusing to lend even a few dollars. When she told me she couldn’t spare $5, I grew concerned and wondered if I’d forgotten to pay her back. But she said that wasn’t the issue. Instead, she lectured me about budgeting and compared me to her brothers and friends who had exploited her financially — even though I’d never taken advantage of her in any way.

I told her it hurt to be lumped in with people who’d used her, especially given everything I had done to support her when she was struggling. She insisted money and friendship shouldn’t mix and acted as if I had wronged her. Later she even messaged me saying she “didn’t deserve that conversation.” I haven’t responded. I’m not entitled to her money, but being dismissed and judged over $5 — after years of generosity — felt like a slap in the face.

Reactions have been mixed: some say she’s “posh now” and no longer the same friend; others argue that borrowing money too often, even small amounts, can strain a friendship. Ultimately, it’s not about the $5 — it’s about respect, empathy, and equality. And sometimes, a small incident just reveals a truth that’s been there all along.