Some boundaries are worth defending, and your late mother’s recipe is one of them. A boss may expect cooperation, but that doesn’t mean every request is reasonable — especially when it involves something deeply personal. If your workplace chooses to punish you for protecting a family memory, that reflects their values, not your character.

Stay firm in your decision, and consider getting independent HR or legal advice before agreeing to anything. Jobs come and go, but your integrity — and your mother’s legacy — shouldn’t be compromised for workplace pressure or convenience.

If you still want to show goodwill, you can offer alternatives: a modified version of the dish, another contribution for future potlucks, or even help organizing team events. That way, you demonstrate cooperation without sacrificing something that matters to you.

True teamwork doesn’t require giving up personal boundaries. By standing your ground respectfully, you show that kindness and respect can coexist with firm limits — a lesson your colleagues may end up admiring in the long run.