Many women have dealt with the so-called “nice guy”—the one who acts sweet until he thinks he’s owed something. These stories show just how unpleasant those encounters can be.

One woman shared how a Hinge match pulled her photo metadata and sent her a Google Maps image of her house—terrifying. Another recalled a date with “Josh,” who spent the whole hike bragging about being smarter than everyone else, especially women. A lab colleague wouldn’t stop cornering his coworker with “friendly” questions until HR stepped in.

Others told of dates that soured quickly: one man ordered for his date and called her “kitten” all night, another love-bombed with gifts and then harassed her mom when she pulled away. A “friend” turned nasty after she started dating someone else, claiming she “owed” him a chance. One guy responded to rejection with ten paragraphs of texts, another pivoted to asking about the woman’s sister.

Some stories are just bizarre—like the man who boasted about only showering once a month to “keep his natural musk.”

The common thread? These “nice guys” show kindness only with strings attached. The lesson from these women: always trust your gut—it’ll save you from situations like these.