Iris found herself at a heartbreaking crossroads when a long-standing dream of motherhood turned into a conflict she never imagined facing. After years of trying and medical confirmation that her husband was infertile, she began coming to terms with adoption as a loving, ethical way to build a family together. To her, adoption wasn’t a compromise—it was a hopeful path forward, one that centered on raising a child with care, stability, and intention. She believed this would be something they could face as a united couple after the grief of infertility.

Her husband, however, shocked her with what he called a “practical” solution: asking her brother-in-law to father the baby so the child would still be biologically connected to the family. To Iris, the suggestion felt deeply invasive and emotionally reckless. It blurred boundaries, ignored her comfort, and reduced her role to that of a vessel rather than an equal partner. What hurt most wasn’t just the idea itself, but how casually her husband dismissed her feelings and her clear “no.” Instead of discussing grief, fears, or alternatives together, he pushed an option that left her feeling objectified and unsafe within her own marriage.

Now Iris is questioning more than just how to have a baby—she’s questioning trust, respect, and whether her vision of family aligns with her husband’s at all. The situation has forced her to confront a painful truth: agreeing on parenthood isn’t just about wanting a child, but about sharing values, boundaries, and empathy. Without those, even the most desperate solutions can do more harm than good.