My husband always treated his mother like a queen and made sure I felt like the runner-up. The day he told her she deserved the front seat of our car more than I did, my heart broke. But I didn’t cry. I devised a plan. When I finally struck, it was a lesson they’d never forget.Before we got married, Harry was attentive, thoughtful, and independent. When he proposed, I thought I was marrying a man who’d built his life on his own terms.There were small things, of course. Little signs I told myself didn’t matter.He called his mom, Stephanie, every single day. Sometimes twice. If she had an opinion about something, like what color shirt he should buy, which route he should take to work, or whether he should get a haircut, he listened like she was delivering divine wisdom.
But I brushed it off as sweet.”He just loves his mom,” I told myself. “She’s a widow. She raised him on her own. That’s not a bad thing.”I was so wrong it hurts to think about now.The moment we got married and moved into our new apartment together, everything shifted.Stephanie called during dinner, Harry answered, even if I was mid-sentence, mid-story, or mid-breath. He’d hold up one finger like I was an interruption, not his wife sitting across from him.If we had plans and his mom suddenly needed help with moving furniture or picking up groceries, our plans evaporated. No discussion. No apology.