Ending a relationship on good terms with an ex isn’t as easy as most people think. So, can staying friends with someone you once loved and shared dreams with actually be a good thing?The thing is that on paper, having a friendly relationship with an ex may sound like a grown-up thing, something of a proof that what you shared mattered and that you are able to move on without feeling bitter that it ended. At the end of the day, that’s what maturity looks like, right?However, if we ever make a decision to reach an ex, it usually comes with an expectation of how that possible meeting could unfold.

Maybe it will start with a friendly hug and then catching up on life, looking at what’s changed and what hasn’t. Or, you might quietly desire an apology, even if you’re not sure what you’d do with one.This is one of the reasons why psychologists advise you to be clear-eyed about the real reason you’re trying to make contact in the first place.These are some of the questions you should ask yourself before making a move and invite your ex over for coffee.Before you even consider reaching out to an ex, make sure you know exactly what is the reason behind the decision. Imagine that someone you love is thinking of making the same thing and see how you’d react to their decision and then apply the same advice you’d give to them to yourself.you want just friendship or maybe a reconciliation, be honest with yourself and make sure you don’t send mixed messages.