My uncle raised me after my parents died. After his funeral, I got a letter in his handwriting that started with, “I’ve been lying to you your whole life.”I was 26, and I hadn’t walked since I was four.Most people heard that and assumed my life started in a hospital bed.But I had a “before.”My mom, Lena, sang too loud in the kitchen. My dad, Mark, smelled like motor oil and peppermint gum.I had light-up sneakers, a purple sippy cup, and way too many opinions.I don’t remember the crash.All my life, the story was: there was an accident, my parents died, I lived, my spine didn’t.The state started talking about “appropriate placements.”Then my mom’s brother walked in.Ray looked like he’d been built out of concrete and bad weather. Big hands. Permanent frown.The social worker, Karen, stood by my hospital bed with a clipboard.
“We’ll find a loving home,” she said. “We have families experienced with—””No,” Ray said.She blinked. “Sir—”He brought me home to his small house that smelled like coffee.He didn’t have kids. Or a partner. Or a clue.So he learned. He watched the nurses, then copied everything they did. Wrote notes in a beat-up notebook. How to roll me without hurting me. How to check my skin. How to lift me like I was heavy and fragile at once.The first night home, his alarm went off every two hours.He shuffled into my room, hair sticking up.”Pancake time,” he muttered, gently rolling me.I whimpered.I know,” he whispered. “I got you, kiddo.”He built a plywood ramp so my wheelchair could clear the front door. It wasn’t pretty, but it worked.He fought with insurance on speakerphone, pacing the kitchen.”No, she can’t ‘make do’ without a shower chair,” he said. “You want to tell her that yourself?”