A woman found a hidden letter in her apartment while cleaning, addressed to “Steve’s future girlfriend.” The letter, written by Steve’s ex, warned about his behavior and lack of contribution to housework. When she showed the note to Steve, he angrily ripped it up, calling his ex “crazy” and accusing his girlfriend of letting the past ruin their relationship. Feeling unsettled, she left to stay at a friend’s place for the night to think things over.

She explained that when they first moved in together, chores were split evenly, but Steve had slowly stopped helping. Dishes piled up, trash was left for her to handle, and he ignored her reminders. The letter made her realize how much his behavior had changed and gave her the push to bring up her concerns — but instead of listening, Steve focused only on blaming her for trusting his ex.

When she shared her story online, many Redditors pointed out red flags: Steve dismissing his ex as “crazy,” refusing to take responsibility, and turning the argument back on her. Several advised her to reach out to his ex, Natalia, to hear her side of the story, and to consider whether this was a relationship worth staying in.

Commenters also warned that Steve would likely repeat the cycle, labeling her “crazy” to his next girlfriend just like he did with Natalia. Many agreed that his defensiveness and refusal to address simple issues like cleaning showed a lack of growth, suggesting she might be better off walking away before things got worse.