My sister just lost her husband, and the stress caused a miscarriage. Two weeks later, my son’s birthday celebration is coming up. She called me crying and asked me to cancel my son’s birthday party. I refused and said, “I can’t ruin it for my son and his friends.”I suggested that she may not come if she feels uncomfortable, as I understand that she’s still grieving. I love my sister, but I also love my son. His happiness is my priority, and he’s really looking forward to his birthday. She didn’t say anything back and hung up the call.

On the day of the party, I was surprised when she came with a gift for my son. As we were singing Happy Birthday, we heard a loud crash from the kitchen. I rushed to check and was horrified to see my sister on the floor, breaking down. I asked what happened, and she accused me of being a bad sister and said that I’m disrespecting her. She stormed out of the house while I was still in shock.All the attention went to what she did, and my son’s visitors felt uncomfortable. I’m sure they all left thinking I was in the wrong. So, now I’m wondering: Was it wrong of me to put my son’s birthday first, even though my sister was in so much pain?Angela