A woman shared her story online about her husband’s extreme behavior over water conservation. At first, he installed a water filter, which she appreciated, but soon his obsession grew. He imposed a strict rule: only two showers a week to save water. She, however, preferred daily showers and began secretly showering at the gym to avoid conflict. When he started turning off the hot water mid-shower, it created serious tension in their 20-year marriage.
One night, after insisting she needed a shower, he shut off the hot water again. Furious, she confronted him and threatened to move in with her parents if he didn’t stop. She loves her husband deeply but feels trapped by his irrational and controlling behavior, unsure if leaving is the right step.
Reddit users advised her to consider moving out temporarily and suggested marriage counseling, noting his actions could stem from a mental health issue rather than pure control. Many pointed out that skipping showers barely impacts water conservation compared to corporations and that his behavior is harming her well-being.
Others stressed that his actions crossed a line, especially when he physically prevented her from showering. They urged her to protect her boundaries, seek therapy, and demand he get professional help, as this issue goes far beyond environmental concerns and into controlling, unhealthy behavior.