A man (41) shared that he lost his wife, who was 7 months pregnant, when he was 35. Despite his grief, he stayed in touch with her parents, understanding their pain even though they were often difficult. They disapproved of him dating again, claimed part of his inheritance (around $80k), and tried to control his life—constantly checking on him and expecting emotional support.
Now remarried and expecting twin boys, he told his former mother-in-law the news. She simply replied “congrats,” then reminded him not to forget his late wife and unborn son, and never mentioned his new family again. He feels their relationship is one-sided—draining, guilt-ridden, and dismissive of his happiness—and wonders if cutting ties is wrong.
He explained, “Every time something good happens, she says, ‘Don’t forget your first wife and kid.’ I understand her grief, but if she wants a relationship with me, it should include my whole life—not just the parts that suit her.”
