I am about to lose my marriage just because of my MIL. Kindly advise and share your opinions on this!

I always imagined that marriage is mainly about two people only. Instead, I got what I got. My husband’s mom is always around. Especially when we make more or less serious decisions.

What car to buy? He calls her. Redecorating? We can’t do that without her approval. Last time, she shook her head at my choices and decided for us.

The breaking point came at a family dinner last week. My MIL frowned and said, “Why didn’t you talk to me before you started trying for a baby? I could have given you so many good tips. Do you know the secret of having a boy, for example?”

I stared at her, stunned, but my husband just nodded like this was normal. I lost it. I asked him, “Why is your mom involved in every decision we make? Why don’t you go ask her how to make a baby, then?”

His mom got in. She said it wasn’t a big deal because we’re a family. She means only well for us, and I shouldn’t overreact. My husband kept silent.

I really couldn’t take it anymore. I just stood up and left for my room. That’s when I noticed a new photo of him and his mother lying on his nightstand. I literally choked when I saw a text, “I can have many wives, but there is only one mother.” Ha-ha.

I really couldn’t believe what I was seeing. Was I competing for his attention with his mom?

When he came to me, I told him I needed time. I couldn’t keep living in a relationship where his mom had more say than I did. Where his mom seems to be the priority. I told him to leave for now.

I don’t know what to do next, but I can’t stay with him while he’s still under her control. Please help.