A man opened up about the emotional and financial struggles in his eight-year marriage to a high-earning wife who makes $160,000 a year from two demanding jobs. While she covers most household expenses, he brings in very little from sporadic freelance work and admits he’s still “finding himself.” The imbalance grew tense when his wife gave $8,000 to her parents for a car — after already providing them ongoing care — while his own aging parents quietly felt overlooked.

When he asked her to extend similar financial support to his family, she firmly refused. She reminded him she had previously helped with a $1,200 dental bill for his mom but didn’t feel it was fair to shoulder both families’ needs. She said it was time to separate finances and told him to start contributing more — not just emotionally or domestically, but financially.

Feeling hurt, he questioned what fairness in a marriage truly means. To him, love and partnership should include shared responsibility, even if contributions differ in form. He believes his emotional labor and household support should be weighed just as heavily as her income, especially when it comes to caring for both sets of parents.

Ultimately, he’s left wondering: is it selfish to want his wife to support his family as she does hers, or is she right to draw a line when she’s carrying the financial burden alone? His story raises uncomfortable but important questions about money, marriage, and the true meaning of equality between partners.