I’m married to a divorced man. His ex got pregnant by her new boyfriend, and when she went into labor, she called my husband asking for help. I tried to stop him, told him it wasn’t his responsibility anymore, but he said, “I’m not heartless,” and left. He disappeared. The next day, I went to her house and froze when I saw his car still in the driveway.

I knocked, and she answered, looking exhausted. She said the birth happened quickly, that she panicked, and that he stayed to make sure she and the baby were okay. I listened, unsure whether to feel angry or ashamed for doubting him.When he came home, he looked worn out and said, “She was alone. I couldn’t just ignore that.stayed silent. I understand compassion, but not absence. He could’ve called, he could’ve come back. Since that day, something has changed between us. I’m seriously thinking about getting a divorce — not out of jealousy, but because I realized I don’t want to live in second place anymore. Or maybe I’m being selfish and lacking empathy when his ex asked for help? I need advice.