I’m writing to you because I feel completely broken. My ex-husband cheated on me for months, and I was so crushed that I divorced him and swore I’d never see him again. I thought my daughter, who is now an adult, would stand by me, but I was wrong. The other day, she told me the most heartbreaking thing I’ve heard since my divorce: she’s naming her baby after him (let’s call him David).

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, so I asked her, “After everything he did to me, you still want to name her after him?” She looked confused, as if she didn’t understand the pain this would cause me. She said, “I know, but his new wife advised me to do it”. She said that her new stepmother was right, and that even after all that he has done, her father is still a big part of her life. She said she wants her daughter to have that same connection.

I was absolutely floored. I’m her mother, and after all the betrayal I’ve been through, she still chose to side with him and his new wife. I feel completely abandoned and like my feelings don’t matter at all.