Thank you, Vanessa, for sharing your story with us. We understand that maintaining a good relationship with your mother-in-law, especially when feelings are hurt, can be challenging. We hope the advice we’ve gathered will help you make the best decision for your family.
Take time to have a direct conversation with your MIL about the rules and expectations you have for her visits. Clearly explain that, while she is an important part of your family, certain behaviors are non-negotiable. For example, let her know that taking groceries or making decisions that leave the kids vulnerable is unacceptable. Be respectful but firm, ensuring she understands that boundaries are in place to create a healthy, respectful dynamic for everyone involved.