Anna moved abroad after marrying her husband, hoping to adapt to his culture. But the local food made her sick, so she cooked simple meals from recipes her chef father sent her. Her mother-in-law, who was living with them temporarily, mocked her cooking from the start, calling it “bird food” and questioning whether it was “even food for humans.” Her husband refused to defend her to avoid upsetting his mother.
Things escalated when Anna came home from work one day to find all the meals she had prepared thrown into the trash. Her MIL calmly told her to stop cooking her “nonsense” and insisted she would teach Anna how to make “real meals.” The real issue wasn’t just the food—it was the disrespect and the message that Anna’s choices didn’t matter in her own home.
Her husband tried to avoid confrontation and ordered her dinner instead of addressing the problem. With months left before her MIL moved out, Anna now feels trapped—unable to cook what she can eat and unsupported by her spouse. She’s torn between setting boundaries and being labeled the difficult foreign daughter-in-law.
Readers advised her that throwing away someone’s food is not cultural—it’s disrespect. Many suggested establishing clear kitchen rules, having a firm conversation with both her husband and MIL, or setting boundaries to protect her health and dignity. Anna must now decide whether to quietly endure the situation or stand up for herself in a household where no one seems willing to stand up with her.