Flying for long hours can be a challenge, especially when it comes to managing personal comfort in close quarters. Adam’s situation on a recent 12-hour flight highlights a common dilemma: balancing personal space with the needs of those around us. In his letter, Adam expresses frustration after a pregnant woman behind him asked him to put his seat up, which led to a brief exchange of words that later left him feeling embarrassed. After learning of the woman’s connections, Adam now wonders whether he was in the wrong. While we sympathize with both sides, we believe that this situation is a reminder of how important it is to approach these moments with empathy, patience, and consideration for others.

Adam, we can understand your frustration. Airplane cabins are not exactly designed for comfort, especially in economy class. As a tall person, the urge to recline your seat is natural—after all, you’re trying to make the best of a long and uncomfortable flight. The discomfort is real, and we don’t fault you for wanting to create more room for yourself. However, it’s essential to keep in mind that the seats on planes are very close together, and every action you take might affect someone else. Reclining your seat, while a right you have, does impact the person behind you. It’s important to ask yourself, “Would I be comfortable in their position?” A little reflection could have helped ease the tension from the start.