I’m Emma, 37, and I always thought I had a good relationship with my stepson — but my daughter never felt the same. She kept saying there was something “off” about him, and I assumed it was just normal teen tension. But the night before a family trip I planned to help them bond, she came to me in tears, shaking, begging not to go. She admitted he’d been secretly snooping through her phone, reading her private messages and photos. I confronted him the next day and set three simple boundaries: no touching her phone, no being alone unless both agreed, and respecting her “no.”
Instead of agreeing, he exploded, accusing me of choosing my daughter over him and insisting she made everything up. My husband sided with his son and refused to go on the trip, so everything was canceled and now the whole house feels tense and divided. I’m left wondering if setting boundaries was unfair — or if it was the only way to protect my daughter.