Love is often spoken of as something permanent, yet in real life it needs tending, attention, and presence to stay alive. In long-term relationships — especially those that span decades — love can shift quietly. It does not usually depart with drama; it changes in subtle ways that are easy to miss until a moment of honesty brings them into focus.What once felt effortless may slowly grow muted. Falling out of love almost never happens all at once.
It unfolds through unspoken disappointments, emotional misalignments, and a steady tiredness that builds so gradually it feels invisible until it becomes unmistakable.For people in their sixties and beyond, this awareness can feel particularly weighty. Years of shared routines, family responsibilities, and sacrifices can blur the line between devotion and familiarity. Many find themselves wondering whether the bond they feel is rooted in love — or simply in habit, duty, and the comfort of what has always been.