A 43-year-old man turned to Reddit after discovering a painful secret that shattered the marriage he believed was built on trust. He and his wife had been together since high school, surviving long distance during her college years and eventually marrying after graduation. For twenty years, he thought their relationship was strong and happy. That illusion cracked during a casual dinner with his wife’s college friends, when an awkward exchange hinted at a hidden past. A former roommate later urged him to ask his wife what really happened in college. When he confronted her, she initially brushed it off, but his insistence led her to finally admit the truth.
The next day, his wife confessed she had cheated on him with multiple men during her first two years of college. She claimed she hadn’t considered it serious at the time because they were long-distance and she doubted their teenage relationship would last. The revelation deepened when she admitted some of the men were people she had once introduced to him as “friends,” and one was still in her life. Though their marriage had appeared loving and stable for two decades, the betrayal left him unable to reconcile the past with the present. Struggling with broken trust and unanswered pain, he decided to file for divorce, facing the difficult reality that even long, seemingly happy relationships can hide truths that resurface years later.