Six months after I had our second baby, my husband started acting like a stranger—avoiding my touch, sneaking out of bed in the middle of the night, and disappearing into our old van until sunrise. I thought I knew what that meant… until I finally unlocked the van and realized I was wrong.I’m 32F, American, married to Jake, 34M. We’ve got two kids: Maddie, our feral two-year-old, and Theo, our six-month-old.Six months ago I had Theo.That’s when my husband started acting wrong.Not “we’re tired and snappy” wrong.Off.At first, it was tiny things.Jake stopped changing in front of me. He’d grab his clothes and head into the bathroom, shut the door, and get dressed in there like we were roommates.

He started taking long showers late at night. I’d already be in bed, half-asleep, listening to the water go for 30–40 minutes.If I walked past and touched his back or hugged him from behind, he’d flinch.Not a huge jump, but enough.Then he’d force a smile.”Sorry, babe. You startled me. I’m just tired.”In bed, I’d move closer, put my head on his chest.His whole body would go tight.After a minute, he’d ease away.”Gotta sleep while I can,” he’d say. “Work is insane.”Meanwhile I was leaking milk, living in leggings, and operating on three hours of sleep and cold coffee. My stomach was soft, my C-section scar hurt, my hair lived in a greasy bun