My husband was supposed to be home with our three-year-old while I worked extra shifts. Then my neighbor called, sick and panicked, asking when I was coming to pick up my daughter. What I learned next made me realize I didn’t just have a childcare problem — I had a trust problem.
AdvertisementI’m Karen (32F). My husband Ben is 34. Our daughter Melissa is three, which means she has opinions and a volume setting that doesn’t work.A month after Melissa was born, I went back to work. Not because I wanted to. Because bills don’t care.And I believed him. Ben’s always been a good dad. Present. Patient. The kind who can do bedtime without calling me like tech support.

Then Tuesday happened.At 3:00 p.m., my phone rang. Diane.Diane is our neighbor. Older, kind, and she has asthma. When Diane says she’s sick, you listen.She sounded rough.”Karen,” she wheezed, “when are you coming to pick up Melissa?”I went cold. “Pick up Melissa?”Diane coughed hard. “Honey, I’m sick. Ben isn’t answering.”My stomach dropped.”Why is Melissa with you?” I asked.A pause. Then Diane said, “Ben has been dropping her here every day for two weeks. Morning to evening. I thought you knew.”