A woman shared on Reddit that her mother-in-law, who lives across the country, asked for access to their baby monitor to feel connected to her newborn grandchild. Initially, the woman agreed, thinking it was harmless. However, she soon discovered that her MIL was watching all the time, not just the baby, and even commented on private moments — like criticizing her robe while she was breastfeeding. This left the woman feeling creeped out and violated, while her husband brushed it off as “normal.”

The situation escalated when the MIL began sending passive-aggressive texts, subtly judging the woman’s parenting choices, like when to pick up the baby. Feeling constantly watched and criticized, the woman decided to cut off her MIL’s access to the baby monitor without telling anyone. Soon after, her MIL noticed and asked her husband about it, leading to a heated argument between the couple.

The husband accused her of being dramatic and “cutting off” his mom without discussing it first, while she argued it was a serious privacy issue — especially since her MIL was thousands of miles away and watching intimate moments without consent. She insisted that no one has the right to invade their home like that.

Redditors overwhelmingly sided with the woman, calling the MIL’s behavior “creepy” and “controlling.” Many advised her to set firm boundaries and reminded her husband that his mom is not a third parent. Some even joked about setting up a camera in his private spaces to show him how invasive it feels.