A boy wore the same dirty hoodie for a month. I finally snapped and told him, “It stinks. Take it off or go to the principal.” He just gripped the zipper and whispered, “I can’t. I’m sorry.” His eyes filled up, but he didn’t cry.
Later, the PE teacher told me that his dad had died in a fire. That hoodie was the only thing that survived; he wore it because it still smelled like him. I felt like a monster, so I went to the school counselor. She opened a drawer and showed me a folder.
Turns out, she’d been running a “silent operation.” She’d enrolled him in free lunch under a fake code, set up weekly “office helper” shifts to check on his mental health, and was even driving to his grandma’s house on weekends to help with paperwork.
She told me, “The second I send an email, he becomes ’the boy whose dad died.’ He needs normal. That’s the least I can give him.”